When we resist reality, we also tend to adopt the role of the victim (or persecutor), which causes even greater suffering. When we attach to our beliefs about how life should go, we suffer each and every time because we are resisting what is right here and right now. When you argue with reality, you always lose – but only 100% of the time.

I will be happy in the future when I get what I want.Īs self-inquiry teacher, Byron Katie writes,.Everything was much better in the past.She has to change or I won’t find peace.If I did that differently, I would be much happier by now.If I stay a little longer, he will stop his drinking.I should have a much nicer life by now.If he hadn’t cheated, I would have been happy.Essentially, letting go is at the very heart of the spiritual journey of awakening from the false self (or ego) and recognizing our True Nature beyond thought.Ĭommon thoughts that we attach to that create emotions such as anger, rage, disgust, disappointment, anxiety, fear, grief, and depression, include: but when we stop attaching to our thoughts and simply see them for what they are: energy that we assign meaning to, we experience freedom. The simple reality is that when we attach to or identify with our thoughts, we suffer. The opposite of letting go is attachment. Sometimes your heart needs to break a little for the light to get in. But the good news is that letting go is a process that helps us to grow, mature, and find more happiness and inner freedom than we thought ever possible. There is no easy quick-fix or five-step-solution for letting go of feelings such as anger, fear, and grief because letting go is a process. Instead, letting go is a process of surrendering painful beliefs and emotions, and welcoming in love, understanding, forgiveness, and self-compassion. Letting go doesn’t mean forcing yourself to get over something horrible or making yourself forget what happened. Letting go means being willing to release one’s attachment to past events and future imaginings, and live in the present moment. Letting Go of Frustration and Impatience.Letting Go of Toxic People and Relationships.

Letting Go In Bergamo by Daniel Hansen